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This problem

I came across this quote today, and bleak and despairing though it is, it seems to suit my mood pretty accurately:

In early youth, as we contemplate our coming life, we are like children in a theater, before the curtain is raised,

sitting there in high spirits and eagerly awaiting for the play to begin.

It is a blessing that we do not know what is really going to happen. Could we foresee it, there are times when children might seem like condemned prisoners,

condemned, not to death, but to life, and as yet, all unconscious of what their sentence means.

– Alfred Schopenhauer (a German, naturally)


“I look forward to when society beats them down.”

When I started doing diversity workshops with Bridge 13 last fall, the facilitator (aka, my boss) asked me if I would be comfortable telling my “coming out story” at the end of each training. It’s something they do each time with 2 or 3 people, to help put a human face on some of this stuff we’d just been talking about with them. I said I would, even though I don’t really have a coming out story, per se, since for all intents and purposes, I was never really “in.” So I sort of pieced something together on the fly, which is basically the “story” I now tell at every workshop. I talk a lot about how when I was a kid, I pretty much fit every qualifier for gender identity disorder, except for “clinically significant distress.” I give mad props to my parents for just letting me do my thing without interfering or freaking out, even if “my thing” (my favorite thing, actually) was to put on my mother’s lacy nightgown and ride my bike around the neighborhood. Not to mention my love of dolls, the fact that all of my friends were girls, that I wore my mom’s makeup (which she did, actually, call me out on, but she was mad because I had mixed different colored powders together), my obsession with Broadway musicals (ohmygod, Annie, especially) and Olivia Newton-John, and the list goes on and on.

But even if I didn’t have some kind of personal vested interest in just letting kids be kids and explore their gender roles as they see fit, I probably still would have cried reading an article on Huffington Post today about 2 completely worthless shock jocks who ranted on air about how “transgender” children were complete freaks, and should be beaten and have violence visited upon them.

Williams and States took turns referring to gender dysphoric children as “idiots” and “freaks,” who were just out “for attention” and had “a mental disorder that just needs to somehow be gotten out of them,” either by verbal abuse on the part of the parents, or even shock therapy.

“Allowing transgenders to exist, pretty soon it becomes normal to fall in love with the animals,” they said.

For his part, States bragged that if his own son were to ever dare put on a pair of high heels, States would beat his son with one of his own shoes. He urged parents whose own little boys expressed a desire to wear a dress to verbally abuse and degrade them as a viable response. “Because you know what? Boys don’t wear high heel shoes. And in my house, they definitely don’t wear high heels.

“I’m going to go, ‘You know what? You’re a little idiot! You little dumbass!'” States sneered, adding later, “I look forward to when [the transgender children] go out into society and society beats them down. And they wind up in therapy.”

I mean, who cares what 2 idiots in, what, Sacramento think, right? Well, I do, and it’s shocking to me that this is allowed to slide. Saying shit like that about adults is one thing, but advocating for child abuse in a society already incredibly hostile to any confusion or gender challenging in our children is quite another. If this had been racial, you can bet your ass they’d be fired. But so it goes, that’s how our society is.

In light of the well-publicized suicides this year of the two boys who took their own lives because of bullying and harassment for “acting gay” (which, in the argot of modern North American teenagers, often refers to acting in a way considered unmasculine by their peers) the stunning lack of moral sensibility on the part of States and Williams is breathtaking. But it also points to the increasingly degraded landscape of talk radio.

The causal link between Bill O’Reilly’s obsessive baiting of abortion provider Dr. George Tiller on FOX and Tiller’s murder on Sunday, May 31st as he was ushering in his Kansas City church, is currently being explored, an exploration particularly relevant in the case of Rob, Arnie, and Dawn in the Morning, and the potential violent fallout from their inexplicably rage-filled invective against not only transgender children, but even boys who err on the feminine side of standard adolescent behavior, behavior States and Williams consider unnatural because “men are hunters and women are gatherers.”

I shudder to imagine the response of the late Carl Joseph Walker-Hoover’s mother if she’d had the misfortune to hear the KRXQ broadcast.

“They were always saying [to Carl] ‘You’re gay, you must be gay, you act like a girl’,” Sideaner L. Walker told the press in April, speaking of the dead son she had to cut down from the support beam he hung himself from after months of taunts from his peers—taunts that likely bore more than a passing resemblance to the invective used by States and Williams on their May 28th broadcast.

But hey, who cares about some dead fag or sissy, right?

Apparently not enough of us have had our skulls bashed in yet


Mike Huckabee thinks gay people don’t deserve civil rights because, well, basically not enough violence has been inflicted upon us yet to have earned them. I can come up with a pretty quick list of names of people who might disagree with him, but they aren’t around anymore to do so. Anyway, he said so on The View yesterday:

People who are homosexuals should have every right in terms of their civil rights, to be employed, to do anything they want. But that’s not really the issue. I know you talked about it and I think you got into it a little bit early on. But when we’re talking about a redefinition of an institution, that’s different than individual civil rights. We’re never going to convince each other…But here is the difference. Bull Connor was hosing people down in the streets of Alabama. John Lewis got his skull cracked on the Selma bridge.

Apparently that fat tub of fuck just needs to see a little more bloodshed before he’s convinced. Nice guy.

Sometimes it’s true that you can’t go home again

I’ve spent the last couple of weeks not really thinking about the 4 vitriolic anti-gay amendments passed on that otherwise glorious Day of Reckoning on November 4th. Partly because at this stage of the game, I just truly don’t care that much, and partly because I don’t really expect anything different from our mostly uneducated, willfully ignorant, happily bigoted population of the United States. The amendment I’ve spent the least amount of time thinking about, truthfully, is probably the one that should hit closest to home, but doesn’t: the passage of Arkansas’ amendment that gay (or unwed) couples can no longer be foster parents or adopt children. But don’t let that “unwed” part fool you into thinking that wasn’t an amendment based completely and utterly on blind hatred.

I explained it to a friend a few days ago, but had it backwards. Several years ago, someone tried to float an amendment simply barring those diseased gays from becoming foster parents, but a local judge denied it, calling it unconstitutional, so it never went to ballot. So it was revised to include any single person, or unwed couple, and since gays can’t legally wed in Arkansas, voila! The job is done. This one got by a judge (somehow) and went to ballot, and overwhelmingly passed.

This honestly confounds me far more than gay marriage. I mean, I realize that gays are all hedonistic, Satan-worshipping child molesters that eat babies on Christmas morning, but this shit didn’t even fly in Texas! (And everything demonizing gay folks flies in Texas.) What I find most laughable (and pathetically depressing) is that this doesn’t really hurt gay people. If they want gabies that bad, they can take their business (and tax dollars) elsewhere in the country. This really just hurts kids. It’s astonishing, and I mean completely, unspeakably unbelievable to me that people in that state hate gay people so much, that they’re willing to significantly deplete the pool of available foster parents in order to try to hold some kind of moralistic superiority over the heads of gay people, and create a much more dangerous and hostile atmosphere than before. And remember this ban also includes single and unmarried straight people. That’s how badly people in this state wanted to try to make life miserable for the mo’s.

It’s astonishing, and one can only conclude that anyone who voted for this ban either has ice water in their veins, and doesn’t give one shit about kids in desperate need (unless they plan on fostering or adopting all the needy children, which I highly doubt), or they’re simply stupid. I won’t even give them the benefit of being “uneducated” or “ignorant of the facts,” or all the other bullshit p.c. euphemisms we throw around in this country to excuse fascist Christian’s desperately longed-for gay genocide. I’m not going to try to reason with these people, or calmly explain to them why I’m a human being, or try to be a model of love and forgiveness. Fuck that shit. If you voted for this, you’re a stupid fuck and should probably do us all a Darwinian favor and throw yourself off a cliff (before you create anymore babies, especially, that you’ll probably beat and neglect, but that’s okay, because you’re straight and married). Come on, seriously, take one for the team.

I don’t plan on ever living in Arkansas again, and got out of Arkansas as quickly as I could. It’s not a place I’ve ever felt safe, or would ever feel safe taking my family, or really care about at all. And that’s unfortunate, since all the rest of my family lives there. I assume this amendment will be overturned at some point in the future, but what really concerns me is my own future. What if i have to move back to Arkansas sometime to take care of an ailing parent or something, and have to take my family with me? Since we would technically be residents of another state, would we be protected, or subject to Arkansas law? That prospect I find terrifying. And it’s not such an outlandish prospect. (Not to mention the physical danger of two men raising kids in Northwest Arkansas, of all godforsaken places.) I decided recently that once I’m done with school, I want to start taking tentative steps towards gettin’ me some babies, one way or another, and my parents are getting on with age (though they’re both still in great health). It’s a real concern I have. (And, uh, this isn’t anything I’ve actually spoken to my Significant Other about, so I guess we’ll cross that bridge when we get there…?)

It’s ironic to me that the more visible and outspoken the gays are, and the more rights we’re granted in places where people have brains and hearts, the more threatened other people are by that, and feel the need to regressively pass laws that criminalize and dehumanize our lives. Whereas if that visibility didn’t exist so much, people might be more willing to just let things be, and not pass draconian laws punishing kids, who have already suffered so much, in their attempts to punish gay people for being born gay.

Funny how that works.

I can’t stop laughing

Drilling for oil is America’s #1 priority


Rich, self-loathing homos endorse John McCain

Just when my head was about to explode from (somewhat unwillingly, but like an addiction, I can’t stop) following all the Sarah Palin disaster (did you know she’s qualified to be president because she sold an airplane on e-bay??!?), Roll Call reports that predictably, wealthy gay people that hate everything except their bank accounts, have endorsed John McCain, calling him “courageous” and an ally.

Dan Savage gives his take here, and marvels at the number of empty seats in their “big tent event.”

Morgan points out that that gays and lesbians in other countries face “outright hostility,” which is much, much worse than the plain-old hostility gays and lesbians face here at home. So, you know, it really sucks to be gay in Saudi Arabia, so we you so totally risk voting for John McCain!

The next speaker is Patrick Sammon, President of the Log Cabin Republicans.

“We are making progress. Four years ago we were meeting in New York City and the nominee of our party was pushing the federal marriage amendment… this year we have an inclusive nominee.”

You do? Really? What’s his name?

Sammon said in his remarks that gay Republicans frequently get yelled at at dinner parties, which is proof that really they love their party and country.

Also, in case anyone is interested, here are a few choice nuggets from the medieval troglodytes, shit, I mean Republican’s platform:

— No sexual orientation mention in individual rights: “We consider discrimination based on sex, race, age, religion, creed, disability, or national origin to be immoral, and we will strongly enforce anti-discrimination statutes.”

— Position on the military: “To protect our servicemen and women and ensure that America’s Armed Forces remain the best in the world, we affirm the timelessness of those values, the benefits of traditional military culture, and the incompatibility of homosexuality with military service.”

— Marriage: “Because our children’s future is best preserved within the traditional understanding of marriage, we call for a constitutional amendment that fully protects marriage as a union of a man and a woman, so that judges cannot make other arrangements equivalent to it. In the absence of a national amendment, we support the right of the people of the various states to affirm traditional marriage through state initiatives…We also urge Congress to use its Article III, Section 2 power to prevent activist federal judges from imposing upon the rest of the nation the judicial activism in Massachusetts and California. We also encourage states to review their marriage and divorce laws in order to strengthen marriage.”

— Specific defense of the Boy Scouts: “We support the First Amendment right of freedom of association of the Boy Scouts of America and other service organizations whose values are under assault, and we call upon the Commonwealth of Massachusetts to reverse its policy of blacklisting religious groups which decline to arrange adoptions by same-sex couples.”

Yeah, McCain is a real ally.