When I started doing diversity workshops with Bridge 13 last fall, the facilitator (aka, my boss) asked me if I would be comfortable telling my “coming out story” at the end of each training. It’s something they do each time with 2 or 3 people, to help put a human face on some of this stuff we’d just been talking about with them. I said I would, even though I don’t really have a coming out story, per se, since for all intents and purposes, I was never really “in.” So I sort of pieced something together on the fly, which is basically the “story” I now tell at every workshop. I talk a lot about how when I was a kid, I pretty much fit every qualifier for gender identity disorder, except for “clinically significant distress.” I give mad props to my parents for just letting me do my thing without interfering or freaking out, even if “my thing” (my favorite thing, actually) was to put on my mother’s lacy nightgown and ride my bike around the neighborhood. Not to mention my love of dolls, the fact that all of my friends were girls, that I wore my mom’s makeup (which she did, actually, call me out on, but she was mad because I had mixed different colored powders together), my obsession with Broadway musicals (ohmygod, Annie, especially) and Olivia Newton-John, and the list goes on and on.
But even if I didn’t have some kind of personal vested interest in just letting kids be kids and explore their gender roles as they see fit, I probably still would have cried reading an article on Huffington Post today about 2 completely worthless shock jocks who ranted on air about how “transgender” children were complete freaks, and should be beaten and have violence visited upon them.
Williams and States took turns referring to gender dysphoric children as “idiots” and “freaks,” who were just out “for attention” and had “a mental disorder that just needs to somehow be gotten out of them,” either by verbal abuse on the part of the parents, or even shock therapy.
“Allowing transgenders to exist, pretty soon it becomes normal to fall in love with the animals,” they said.
For his part, States bragged that if his own son were to ever dare put on a pair of high heels, States would beat his son with one of his own shoes. He urged parents whose own little boys expressed a desire to wear a dress to verbally abuse and degrade them as a viable response. “Because you know what? Boys don’t wear high heel shoes. And in my house, they definitely don’t wear high heels.
“I’m going to go, ‘You know what? You’re a little idiot! You little dumbass!'” States sneered, adding later, “I look forward to when [the transgender children] go out into society and society beats them down. And they wind up in therapy.”
I mean, who cares what 2 idiots in, what, Sacramento think, right? Well, I do, and it’s shocking to me that this is allowed to slide. Saying shit like that about adults is one thing, but advocating for child abuse in a society already incredibly hostile to any confusion or gender challenging in our children is quite another. If this had been racial, you can bet your ass they’d be fired. But so it goes, that’s how our society is.
In light of the well-publicized suicides this year of the two boys who took their own lives because of bullying and harassment for “acting gay” (which, in the argot of modern North American teenagers, often refers to acting in a way considered unmasculine by their peers) the stunning lack of moral sensibility on the part of States and Williams is breathtaking. But it also points to the increasingly degraded landscape of talk radio.
The causal link between Bill O’Reilly’s obsessive baiting of abortion provider Dr. George Tiller on FOX and Tiller’s murder on Sunday, May 31st as he was ushering in his Kansas City church, is currently being explored, an exploration particularly relevant in the case of Rob, Arnie, and Dawn in the Morning, and the potential violent fallout from their inexplicably rage-filled invective against not only transgender children, but even boys who err on the feminine side of standard adolescent behavior, behavior States and Williams consider unnatural because “men are hunters and women are gatherers.”
I shudder to imagine the response of the late Carl Joseph Walker-Hoover’s mother if she’d had the misfortune to hear the KRXQ broadcast.
“They were always saying [to Carl] ‘You’re gay, you must be gay, you act like a girl’,” Sideaner L. Walker told the press in April, speaking of the dead son she had to cut down from the support beam he hung himself from after months of taunts from his peers—taunts that likely bore more than a passing resemblance to the invective used by States and Williams on their May 28th broadcast.
But hey, who cares about some dead fag or sissy, right?